tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post5463085757521970796..comments2023-10-30T01:52:04.961-07:00Comments on Miniver Cheevy: AskewJonathan Kormanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06249159323930786199noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-48929899374130585232015-10-11T22:47:08.297-07:002015-10-11T22:47:08.297-07:00Wow, a straight white dude insisting he's &quo...Wow, a straight white dude insisting he's "queer" and down with the cause while also making sure we all know he's straight... How unbelievably transgressive and so very HELPFUL of you. You're just so...so...brave. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-91920057472343972082014-06-29T09:39:20.890-07:002014-06-29T09:39:20.890-07:00awesome JK thank you !awesome JK thank you !Polarity Lineagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07809989029835338891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-78298176854349263162013-10-14T13:48:02.016-07:002013-10-14T13:48:02.016-07:00I couldn't agree with you more, as an extremel...I couldn't agree with you more, as an extremely Queer person. You have been able to articulate this concept for me, which previously existed as a load of jumbled up words and feelings. I myself have been saying that I was "half gay," because it never felt quite right to just say I was merely bisexual. To say that merely implied it was all just about sexual attraction, rather than identity and personality. Right on, brotha.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12494615593228738625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-52049263757985938132013-10-13T15:24:59.409-07:002013-10-13T15:24:59.409-07:00Blushing.Blushing.Jonathan Kormanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06249159323930786199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-26083953008435382932013-10-13T15:08:37.642-07:002013-10-13T15:08:37.642-07:00“This event is not only for lesbians and gay men; ...“This event is not only for lesbians and gay men; it is for anyone queer. Not being gay doesn't mean you're not queer. Being gay doesn't mean you are queer. If you are, you know, so come join in.” <br /><br />Yes. <br /><br />All day long I was pondering the "coming out" post, and out of fatigue with the state of things - shattering after shattering of collective voice, and some heartbreak rooted in the need to self-segregate, I found myself too tired to declare myself. <br /><br />I have identified as queer since my late teens. Two hetero marriages, two term pregnancies, two teenaged daughters, and two decades later...I'm still here. <br /><br />Yes. Get used to it.<br /><br />Thanks, Mr. Korman. <br /><br />P.S. Day before yesterday I told Ror she should friend you. We were tlaking about men and feminism. I told her you are literally the only man I have even witnessed being an impeccable feminist. <br /><br />Respect.Lasarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00386565604012144302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-14238816109660618132013-10-13T10:30:46.167-07:002013-10-13T10:30:46.167-07:00(Wow. Just reliving that experience revoked 12 yea...(Wow. Just reliving that experience revoked 12 years of learning. I meant "a transgender woman warned me...")<br /><br />Also, thank you for clarifying the assimilationist view. I consider myself trangressive but understand, respect, and support those who identify as "normal."Beth Adele Longhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12765772281826264904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-14575274029647611872013-10-13T09:18:11.219-07:002013-10-13T09:18:11.219-07:00Thank you, thank you, thank you. When I first spen...Thank you, thank you, thank you. When I first spent time in the lesbian community, I was flummoxed because I'd expected my not-quite-articulated sense of being "queer" to find a home in the LGBT space. My first clue that this was absolutely not going to happen was when a transsexual informed me of the dangers of dating bisexual women. It took many years before I was able to reclaim my queer identity in any useful way.Beth Adele Longhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12765772281826264904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-38249594645618237222013-10-13T08:30:26.099-07:002013-10-13T08:30:26.099-07:00It's perhaps important for me to underline tha...It's perhaps important for me to underline that I'm not saying that the conscious pariah stance is superior to the assimilationist stance. The fight for same-sex marriage is a worthy one. I think of the last monologue in Tony Kushner's <em>Angels In America</em>: "We will be citizens." If the state is to be involved in the marriage business, then let it do so with equity. Anything less is an insult.<br /><br />But the assimilationist stance is not complete in itself.Jonathan Kormanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06249159323930786199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-73235467380796396892013-10-12T17:31:41.625-07:002013-10-12T17:31:41.625-07:00I'm glad to see this. It's what I was sayi...I'm glad to see this. It's what I was saying back when there were loud politics involved.<br /><br />http://cobb.typepad.com/cobb/2005/08/your_gay_friend_1.htmlCobbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14540420277243106564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-58331013164373249152013-10-12T12:41:34.333-07:002013-10-12T12:41:34.333-07:00I have to admit to having felt discomforted by the...I have to admit to having felt discomforted by the word queer coming to equal gay in recent years, because indeed the very reason I use the word queer to describe myself is that I do not fit into any tidy boxes. <br /><br />This post also brings to mind a time around 12 years ago when I spoke to a college class in Chicago on Queer Spirituality. One of the young men wondered why I used the word queer. He and his friends would never use that word, he said. I had to explain why it was so important to me as a gender fluid person, as someone who was attracted to and had been in relationship with men, women, trans people etc etc etc. I wasn't gay. I wasn't lesbian. I was queer. He looked startled, but seemed to understand. T. Thorn Coylehttp://www.thorncoyle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-28219236337440241872013-10-12T12:39:42.821-07:002013-10-12T12:39:42.821-07:00Thank you so much for your eloquent words and brav...Thank you so much for your eloquent words and brave openness. It gives me courage to try to come out as wellAuroraRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14956535715811684057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6216910.post-50190224793251216092013-10-12T12:39:21.630-07:002013-10-12T12:39:21.630-07:00Thank you so much for your eloquent words and brav...Thank you so much for your eloquent words and brave openness. It gives me courage to try to come out as wellAuroraRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14956535715811684057noreply@blogger.com