30 May 2007

Flirting and otherwise

OK, people, for the record:

Flirting
An exchange with someone where the shape of your relationship remains uncertain, and the exchange is a way of figuring out what the two of you want
Hunting
An exchange with someone where you know the kind of relationship you're interested in, and your exchange is a way of finding out if that person is a good candidate for it
Banter
An exchange with someone where the shape of your relationship is clearly established, and your exchange is a way of playing with those known parameters

All three processes have their place, but it's important that you're clear on which process you're doing, both with yourself and with your interlocutor.

2 comments:

Fede said...

Hi, interesting. Why did you write this post? Just out of the blue or it does follow a specific path...I am courious, other than interested into the topic.
Thanks
Good night and good luck

Jonathan Korman said...

It's something I find myself bringing up often when discussing flirting, and I wanted to reference it in a comment somewhere else.